Hello, Modish Mommies, it’s Kaya and I’m back with another topic for Mental Health Monday! October is Domestic Violence awareness month. As a mental health provider, it is something that I’m always screening for when I see my clients. One of my most fundamental roles is to help ensure their safety. In this installment, I would like to provide you with some information about the impact of domestic violence in our society, how to help, and how to get help.
According to the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence, one in three women and one in four men have been victims of (some sort of) physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior. Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner as stated by the World Health Organization. Lastly, a mere 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries. These statistics are staggering and alarming because according to them, domestic violence impacts such a large portion of both male and female populations and yet it is not commonly discussed. They also imply that the number of victims may be far greater than what we are aware of!
It is important to know how to help or get help if you know someone or are being victimized yourself. There is a great deal of shame, power, and control dynamics that may keep victims from getting the proper help that they need. Furthermore, they may feel that by getting help, things will get worse for themselves or other family members who are dependent on them such as their children or other vulnerable relatives. With this in mind, it is never a good idea to take it upon yourself to confront the abuser. Discretion is usually helpful in order to maintain victim safety. One of the best things that you can do is to provide victims with resources and offer your support. Discreetly give them contact information for domestic violence shelters, hotlines, and of course law enforcement so that they have a way to get the help that they need when they are ready. They are best trained to help victims with safety planning should they decide to leave. Lastly, never assume that you know more than the victim about their safety. They live their realities every day and are far more aware of all of the safety considerations in their unique situations. I hope that every mom out there knows that they are important and that they matter!
Self-Care Tidbit: If there is anyone in your life that degrades, belittles, physically attacks or harms you in any way, in order to make you feel like you are less than the beautiful mother that you are. Strongly consider removing them from your life. Partners should be positive, supportive, and lift you up emotionally, spiritually, and physically!
24 Hour Confidential Support
Want to continue the conversation? Please do so through our comment section or the Modish Mommies MConnect page on FB!