Hello Modish Mommies! It’s Kaya and I’m so glad to be back here following a brief hiatus. During that time period, I have been in transition and moved almost 7,000 miles back to the United States, after spending three years in Japan. I have started a new job, left friends that have been dear to me while in Japan, found a place to live, and purchased important items such as a vehicle and a new home. On top of my own personal transition, I have also transitioned my almost two-year-old daughter and four-year-old son. It’s been a journey filled with a full range of emotions including happiness, sadness, trepidation, and joy. Mostly, I have looked forward to returning to my country and the lifestyle that I left behind three years ago.
During my final days in Japan, I was able to reminisce about the rich experience I had while living there. I had the opportunity to learn about the culture and raise my children in one of the safest countries in the world. For me, I appreciated the safety of the country and my children’s opportunities to attend a Japanese daycare as well as traveling throughout Asia, more than anything. I think living in another country has opened up my level of consciousness and appreciation to more cultures and experiences. It has heightened my sense of the importance of diversity, social justice, and equality for everyone. I strongly recommend for you and your family to take advantage of any opportunity to travel and expose yourselves to what the world has to offer!
Now that I’ve caught you up on my life, I wanted to shed light on Domestic Violence Awareness Month so we can raise attention to this social issue and share information to those in need. If you or anyone you know is experiencing any physical, emotional, or sexual abuse please get help. In most communities, there are local resources, and shelters specific for victims of domestic violence. Remember that you do not deserve to be harmed by anyone. Each of us deserves to be treated well by others, especially those with whom we choose to be in romantic relationships with. Below are some statistics by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to help you understand how common this epidemic is in our country:
- On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.
- 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of (some form of) physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.
- 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.
- The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.
- Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.
- Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.
- Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.
As a final thought, remember to put yourself first and do things that create joy within you and surround yourself with people that do the same. Know that you are deserving of love. If you are a victim you are not alone and there are people who can help you. If you know a victim, please do not intervene and potentially cause more harm to the victim or to yourself. Instead, call law enforcement or other professionals for help. Below are few national resources for victims and anyone else impacted by domestic violence or abuse. If you want to continue the conversation feel free to comment on here or via Instagram!
NCADV Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)